The UK Christian Singles Community.

At DivineMatch we understand that our members vary in their level of comfort and experience with dating. We try to support our more shy members as much as those who have a wealth of dating experience. One of the most awkward things you can encounter during a date is those long silences when you can’t think of anything to say. If you have practiced and have a mental list of things to move the conversation along, you’ll be more comfortable when you hit the awkward pause.

That said, if you have to continually work to keep a conversation flowing, odds are that there just isn’t a connection. Don’t take it personally or get discouraged. Humans are complex little creatures and what makes two people connect is the subject of thousands of years of debate! Keep trying. See each date as a training experience for when that special person comes along.

Stick with safe topics early on (i.e. no religion, no past relationships, no politics). Pop culture is safe including movies and television. “Do you watch much tv? What do you like?” “Did you see the new James Cameron film?” “Do you like science fiction at all?”. If you are both readers, books are a great topic. Travel is a fun topic. “Have you traveled outside the area? What’s your favorite place?”. Be yourself, but at the same time it wouldn’t hurt to keep an eye on current events or entertainment. Find the things you are passionate about and then keep up to date with what’s going on.

Many people have pets now and often talking to someone about their cat or dog will be that thing that will finally warm them up. Lots of folks have photos of their pets on their cell phones so you can ask about that. Same with siblings and family.

Study and/or work are good conversation starters. Don’t just ask what they do, but why and what they want to do with it. Of course all work and no play is no fun, so find out what they love to do and why.

Be patient. Conversation is a skill that improves with practice!